Grief

A few days ago, a friend said I was strong, he probably meant it as a compliment, and couldn't get the hint when I told him I wasn't strong because I wanted to be, and I would like to be weak once in a while, it's tiring being strong, and he kept stupidly insisting that Japan had made me strong.

I should have told him that people like me don't take that as compliments, rather it's burdensome. But I guess I missed my chance...

I seriously think that people who have no talent in reading people or not much talent in reading people, or who has never seriously experienced grief before, should just stop talking. Even if you have experienced grief before, everyone's grief is different. 

So stop spouting nonsense, you are not being there for the person who is grieving, rather you make it sound like you are the one that is grieving. Please do not expect a grieving person to comfort you, they already have enough on their plate as it is. 

It's like telling a patient dying of cancer "I understand". Here is a piece of advice, you understand nothing unless you are the one dying from cancer okay? Well even if you were once a patient dying of cancer, what you and the other person feels is totally different. We all go through different life experiences which moulds us.

It's not easy dealing with a grieving person, but you don't have to say anything to a grieving person. Just being by their side is enough. 

And if people like that want to talk, they should look up on how to deal with people who are going through grief, and hopefully have the sense of mind to apply what they have learnt. 

-ケイ-